Having a bebé was never a plan for any of my girlfriends, including me − at least not an immediate one. Of course, we wanted to have kids some day in the near futuro. And naturally, we were meant to be mothers and take care of our children. The problema was that we weren’t that prepared. But who really is?
Some of us were already in our thirties, and according to a few estudios that is exactly the right age to start a familia of your own. Yet my girlfriends and I have always enjoyed being single and having time for ourselves: to do the things we love, explore our pasiones, excercise, pursue our career goals, hang out, date on our own terms… We were alone so many times in the past that we have learned to embrace freedom.
However, at the moment, some of us were finally in a relación estable, and that hasn’t stopped us from meeting together and having fun because, despite what others may think. You don’t need to be cut off from your friends once you are married and happy.
Let’s be clear about this. When you have a partner by your side who respects you and loves you no matter what, who is loyal and trusting, caring and hard-working, and who is really willing to do anything for you, OMG what else could you possibly want? Is that not what you have always asked for from a guy? Obviously, your life is going to change somehow and every friend and relative around you just has to accept your choice and be part of your happiness.
Jim and I have been together for almost three years. I finally knew I had met my match. There’s no other persona in the whole world who could understand me, support me and love me more. We barely argue with each other and the sexo… always mind-blowing. At first, I wasn’t sure about taking a step forward in our relación and living together as a real couple. I had gained some kind of independencia económica that I didn’t need a boy to give me any security or comfort in my life, but somehow he managed to get me out of my ‘’single’’ box and make me realize that there’s nothing wrong with some male compañía and help for a change.
For a long time, Jim and I struggled to find a place of our own. In the meantime, we were living in a rental we could both afford and there we learned to share responsabilidades, build confidence in one another and love our privacidad. Something I hadn’t experienced before. Unfortunately, we got kicked out of the owner’s house and had to start all over again. Looking for an apartment (apartamento) and moving out every six months was exhausting, but we had each other, and that was worth any sacrificio.
(…to be continued…)
Series – Evanescent
January: If Something Can Go Wrong…It Will – Jonay Quintero Hernández (Spain)
February: The Planet of Pleasure – Nane Sevunts (Armine Asryan) (Armenia)
March: Evening with Jackie Chan – Gennady Bondarenko (Ukraine)
April: Vuvuzelas, Walkie-Talkies and Madiba Magic – Sarah-Leah Pimentel (South Africa)
May: Remembering – Seyit Ali Dastan (Turkey)
June: 5-4-3-2-1 – Talia Stotts (America)
July: Getting Ready for Newborns – Marilin Guerrero Casas (Cuba)
August: Regrets – Kate Korneeva (Russia)
September: A Hollow Pursuit – Diana Haidar (Syria)
October: The Test – Alejandra Baccino (Uruguay)
November: A Life Rekindled – Lauren Voaden (United Kingdom)
December: Translation Perfect – Zhang Lu (China)
Special: Catching Water III – Javier Gomez (Argentina)
Background – Context
Transadaptation Volume 2: Conceived – Childhood Transadapted, (eds.) Angelika Friedrich, Yuri Smirnov and Henry Whittlesey (2021)
Transadaptation Volume 1: In the Middle – Prelude to a Contemporary Transadaptation, (eds.) Angelika Friedrich, Yuri Smirnov and Henry Whittlesey (2020)
Peripatetic Alterity: A Philosophical Treatise on the Spectrum of Being – Romantics and Pragmatists by Angelika Friedrich, Yuri Smirnov and Henry Whittlesey (2019)
La Syncrétion of Polarization and Extremes Transposée, (eds.) Angelika Friedrich, Yuri Smirnov and Henry Whittlesey (2019)
The Codex of Uncertainty Transposed, (eds.) Angelika Friedrich, Yuri Smirnov and Henry Whittlesey (2018)
L’anthologie of Global Instability Transpuesta, (eds.) Angelika Friedrich, Yuri Smirnov and Henry Whittlesey (2017)
From Wahnsinnig to the Loony Bin: German and Russian Stories Transposed to Modern-day America, (eds.) Angelika Friedrich, Yuri Smirnov and Henry Whittlesey (2013)
Emblems and stories on the international community
Perception by country – Transposing emblems, articles, short stories and reports from around the world
Cover photo: Camaguey, Cuba – Horse carriages cross the railway – Matyas Rehak (Shutterstock)
Source: The Codex of Uncertainty Transposed